A few Weeks

It has been a while since I have posted. Just taken some time to try and sort through so much.

We were suppose to make it to a prayer service for my niece and her family. We got started and we never made it the rest of the way. Why? There are times when you start to do something for all the right reasons but it is wrong. To give a condensed version; one of the people with us felt they were being kidnapped to do something they had not totally agreed to. How do you force a person to do something their heart is not totally into. I was torn into. How do you force someone you are suppose to love and respect to do something they feel you tricked them into. I couldn't, and we didn't but ultimately it lead to what I feel was someone making all the right choices for all the right reasons. When you let someone come to their own decsions without forcing what you believe on them , they will make the right choices. It let me have some great conversation with my mom. In the end all she really wants is all of us to respect her enough to let her decide what she wants. She is an intelligent caring lady and we need to treat her in that way. She doesn't need to be told what to do and how to do it. I know I need to respect her right to believe as she does more. I have no right to force my beliefs and thoughts on her.

She went to Wilmington for the birth of her great grand daughter Carleigh. She went to show her love and support. It was a gift we could give to my brother and his family by having his mom there. I don't care how old we get we all need to know our parent/s love and support us in both the good times and the hurting times. Without anyone forcing her to be there she asked if she could ride along with my hubby and me. Of course we took her.

We had the opportunity to take her to the funeral also. Buck so enjoys chatting with my mom. Sometimes he picks on her but he really likes having her with us. I know she always feels like a 5th wheel but we don't look at it that way at all. Mom made all the right choices by showing her support for her son and his family. The difference is we allowed her to say I want to be there. NOBODY told her she had to do it and that is such a huge difference.

I saw so much positive come out of this past week but there will always be negative too. I cannot believe that two family members failed to go to either of the opportunities they had to show support. I cannot understand how you can not say or do something. But they are the ones who have to live with the choice they made and that is really what life comes down to. CHOICES. you live with the consequences.